Lord Keep Me Head Over Heels in Love with My Husband

Some of the best advice I got 2 years in to our marriage was at a ladies Bible study. I still remember the worship leader saying, “ Ladies , lets not compare our husbands to other men.” That was so vital to me. I stopped and thought about that all day. Had I , Do I ? It had not been too long since the both of us had moved back to Arizona from Europe. American men are very different then Romanian men. I thought about it, I’m sure I did sometimes compare my husband. I probably compared him to the American leader image, the take charge attitude and on and on. It was the best statement in my early married years I ever could have heard, “ Don’t compare your husband.”
It is not fair to our husbands when we raise the standard right in front of their face and demand they be like so and so. It almost stunts growth of who God wants them to become. Our eyes should be on our husband alone. If what we see isn’t what we think it should be , it is not right to move our eyes onto someone we think it is. Rather in hope and love, patience and faithfulness our job is to gaze at our husband with a dream of what God is making him. 
After all who do we think we are? Would we like our husbands to hold us up to another woman they think we should be like. Would we like to be compared to the gorgeous woman, the thin woman, the intelligent woman. I see myself soaking a pillow with tears in that scenario. We as women long to be appreciated, loved and dedicated to by our husbands. Would we be wise to give them anything less.
Love is patient. It waits for growth and maturity. It believes the best in our husband is yet to come. That dream will never spring from our eyes on some other guy model. We can fall head over heels with the guy God gave us by NEVER and I mean NEVER comparing him to another man. With that kind of heart for this guy I married I can begin to see the growth, the gifts, the abilities, the plans shine through. I love coming home from work and telling my husband, “ No other guy compares with you !” The greatest joy in that statement is seeing his face smile at my comment of comparison. The good comparison, the head over heels comparison.